“NO MEANS NO,” EXCEPT WHEN A MAN SAYS NO

“NO MEANS NO,” EXCEPT WHEN A MAN SAYS NO

Apparently some of the same people who believe that “no means no” when a woman says no to sex,  do not believe that “no means no” when a man says “no” to marriage. Often, a man with assests refuses marriage because he believes marriage to be outrageously unfair.
(See “A Feminist Proposal to Bring Back Common Law Marriage” by Cynthia Grant Bowman. http://scholarship.law.cornell.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1137&context=facpub )

Is it too much to expect an adult woman to be responsible for herself and ask a man to marry her if she wants to be married to him? Instead of simply quitting the relationship if it does not suit a woman’s requirements, some women now want the state to consider her “married” even if the man says “no to marriage” and never gives consent. This lunacy assumes the woman to be irresponsible for things for which she is responsible and assumes the man to be responsible for things for which he is not responsible.

This is not just an academic issue per Ms. Bowman. Too few people in British Columbia wanted to get married because of the perceived negative consequences of marriage. The obvious solution would seem to be to change the marriage contract so that more people considered marriage fair to them. Instead, British Columbia simply redefined “spouse” so that people could be “spouses” even though they publicly disavow marriage. Apparently “no means yes” in British Columbia. The purpose, of course, is to allow the same divorce looting that caused many people to refuse marriage in the first place. This back door method is essentially larceny and extremely dishonest, but it does avoid that pesky problem of a cohabitant saying “No” to marriage. ( See: http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/common-law-couples-as-good-as-married-in-b-c-1.1413551 )

So much for the United Nations statement:
http://www.ohchr.org/EN/ProfessionalInterest/Pages/MinimumAgeForMarriage.aspx


"Article 1

1. No marriage shall be legally entered into without the full and free consent of both parties, such consent to be expressed by them in person after due publicity and in the presence of the authority competent to solemnize the marriage and of witnesses, as prescribed by law."