Mail Order Feminism
Marcia Zug
http://scholarship.law.wm.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1397&context=wmjowl
"CONCLUSION
Statistics on the success rates of mail order marriages are hard
to verify. Encounters International, one of the biggest matching
making agencies, claims 104 marriages and four divorces in seven
years. Similarly, a lawyer who specializes in fiancée visas noted
that in eight years, she had seen 600 mail order marriages and
twenty-one divorces. In addition, at least one study claims the
success rates for mail order marriages is eighty percent after five
years, which, if accurate, would be a much better success rate than
the fifty percent rate for American marriages in general. No one
is arguing that mail order marriages should become the norm, simply
that it is time to stop demonizing these unions and recognize
their potential benefits. Mail order marriages provide options to men
and women who find their domestic marriage opportunities limited
and disempowering. These marriages give participants a way of reasserting
control and finding a fulfilling, if unconventional, route
to marriage."
Woman Warrior Meets Mail-Order Bride: Finding
an Asian American Voice in the Women's Movement
Beverly Encarguez Perez
http://scholarship.law.berkeley.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1194&context=bglj
"CONCLUSION
The mail-order bride industry is founded on stereotypical ideas that have
promoted the exploitation and subjugation of Asian women throughout their history
in America. The unequal power dynamic between the mail-order bride and
her American husband facilitates his dominance and infliction of violence towards
her. The policies and institutions currently in place afford little protection
to the abused mail-order bride and may even prove to be oppressive to her.
These obstacles are demoralizing and, more often than not, lead her to resign to a
dire situation. Her lack of power and access to helpful avenues lead to silence.
Her silence silences us all, and her weakness weakens us all. We, as women,
must take a stand and challenge the institutions that lead to this type of brazen
exploitation of underprivileged women all over the world."
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Comment:
Apparently American men are, on average, a little happier than American women.(See http://www.nber.org/papers/w14969.pdf) I am not a sociologist, so my speculation means very little, but there seems to be a subset of women who seem to spend more time trying to block men's pursuit of happiness than pursuing women's own happiness. As the first article points out, many American woman find American men undesirable partners. This perhaps is the reason that one hears "there are no good men left." Some of these men, having been rejected by American women, pursue their happiness with foreign women.
American women could pursue their happiness with foreign men, which would be a positive approach to increasing women's happiness. Instead, many women seem to prefer the negative approach of blocking men's pursuit of happiness. Is it any wonder that people who pursue their own happiness are happier, on average, than people who do not?
If one wants to see just how devoted some women (hopefully a tiny number) are to blocking men's pursuit of happiness, note that there are already plans for a pre-emptive strike to keep men from enjoying fembots (sex robots). These fembots are years (decades?) away, but already there are "reasons" that fembots need to be regulated despite there not being one iota of evidence for needing regulation. But, for the fembots at least, part of the concern seems to be an "alienation of affection" because some men might prefer fembots to women. One suggestion was for the return of "heart balm" lawsuits. Fortunately, I think most women don't seriously want the type of guy who prefers fembots to women, so there should not be a problem. In fact, perhaps this would be a bonus as these men would remove themselves from the gene pool? I suggest a new category of "Darwin Awards" for men who only have sex with fembots. Anyway, here is the fembot link. (Hopefully it is a joke article ...)
Sex Robots and Roboticization of Consent
http://robots.law.miami.edu/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Gutiu-Roboticization_of_Consent.pdf
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See also:
https://i-d.vice.com/en_us/article/the-feminist-argument-for-mail-order-brides
